

I teach parents how to educate their own children (especially those with struggling learners) so that they can successfully and peacefully homeschool or provide supplemental education at home. This podcast will discuss: - various learning disabilities and challenges, including: ADHD, dyslexia, autism, processing disorders, and so much more! - how all people learn - different learning styles - strategies for supporting specific learning challenges - how to apply these learning strategies at home - stories from homeschooling parents -interviews from other experts
Episodes

Monday Apr 04, 2022
Interview with Aditya of Elephant Learning
Monday Apr 04, 2022
Monday Apr 04, 2022
I was hesitant to hold this interview, but went forward with it. I was then hesitant to publish this interview, but have decided to do so.
I am not endorsing the product, Elephant Learning. I’m also not saying that you shouldn’t use it!
I was not given access to Elephant Learning to trial so I can’t speak to it from any personal experience/ first-hand knowledge.
Before you listen to the interview, I want to share my thoughts.
First, the pros:
- Data- allows for a clear picture of how well a child is learning various skills; motivates a child to see their own progress
- Individualized- pre-assessment and monitoring allow each child to receive just the lessons/practice that they need
- Instructs in math language, which can otherwise hinder a child from understanding what their teacher is talking about
- Support is available to help parents work through difficulties and know how to best teach their kids
Now, the cons:
- I’m not sure that it actually teaches math concepts, possibly just math vocabulary?
- If a child struggles, there is no reteaching of a concept in a new way (I have yet to see a program actually do this)
- Requires parent/teacher involvement if a child gets “stuck”; meaning that you are likely to have to teach your child how to do all of the math. However, teaching them so that they can make progress can help kids want to learn the math that you are teaching.
- They claim 1 ½ years of growth in a 3 month period but I’m not clear that any outside assessments confirm this rate of growth and I’ve seen similar claims made by other programs that are really just using their own data and skewing things in their favor. Outside measures don’t support the claims from these other programs, and I’m not sure that Elephant Math is actually any different.
- Not a full curriculum, only supplementary.
- Might be too language-heavy for some kids who need more of a visual or kinesthetic understanding of math as their foundation prior to learning any vocabulary. (Aditya says that math is best learned through discovering concepts, but they start each lesson with definitions…)
What I hope you get out of listening:
- Your own thoughts and insights into whether this program or one of the MANY others like it would be good for your family
- What to consider when making these purchases
- What a math program should include
- Be aware of the emotional appeal these products are making

Monday Mar 28, 2022
Addition Strategies Across Grade Levels
Monday Mar 28, 2022
Monday Mar 28, 2022
Addition is such a common math skill and yet, you may have found yourself wondering HOW to teach it!
To begin with, kids need a few “pre-adding skills”, skills that they must be comfortable with before they can successfully learn to add. They must be able to count, they must recognize numbers and the plus and equals symbols, and they must have 1:1 correspondence.
All math skills should be taught first with concrete exploration, then pictorial representation, and finally with abstract practice (such as standard algorithms).
Early Addition (K - 1st)
Addition starts with just adding small numbers within 5, then within 10, within 20, and within 100. Each step takes on a new level of difficulty for a child. Some progress quickly but others need time to work through each new challenge.
Rushing kids through any level is likely to cause difficulty later on.
When introducing addition to your child for the first time, be sure to have lots of practice with physical objects. To start with, your child will just be exposed to conversations about addition. “You have two carrots. If I give you two more, you’ll have 4!”
When the concept of adding objects is solid, they can be presented with pictures and discuss the addition represented by those pictures.
Finally, the algorithm can be presented. In the course of all of these (concrete, pictorial, and abstract), stories about the numbers should be used. This helps to make the connection between numbers/addition and story problems, helping to prevent difficulty with “word problems” later on.
Before moving into double-digit addition, addition of multiple addends should be introduced (5 + 4 + 3 + 2).
Multiple-digit Addition (2nd - 4th)
Once kids are adding single digit numbers to double-digit numbers with confidence, they’ll move into adding 2 two-digit numbers, first without regrouping (also called carrying), and then with regrouping (carrying).
Again, we want to introduce this concept with concrete and pictorial before jumping to the abstract with just numbers and symbols. The tendency to rush kids through these skills can lead to kids knowing tricks and performing the addition task without truly understanding how the numbers are working, which can cause difficulty later.
I highly encourage the use of base ten blocks, or the Montessori “Golden Beads” to support the understanding of place value with addition. A 100s Number Table is also beneficial in moving from concrete through to abstract (and in supporting abstract).
Decimal Addition
After children have mastered adding multiple-digit numbers with regrouping, they can start to add decimal numbers. First, they’ll add numbers that have the same number of decimal places. (3.56 + 4.12) But then they’ll start to have numbers with different numbers of decimals places. (3.56 + 2.3)
To be successful at this level, kids need to have a strong understanding of place value and exactly what decimal places are representing. Many kids will think that 2.567 is a larger value than 35.3, for example.
One way to support this understanding of place value is to use those same base ten blocks as before, or something similar, perhaps using a different color for decimals, to avoid some confusion.
Once at the abstract stage, I would suggest setting the problems up horizontally so that the child has to then “stack” the problem accurately, understanding how it must line up.
Fraction Addition
Around the same time, and possibly prior to, decimal addition, children will often be taught fraction addition. First, the numbers will have the same denominator. Working with fraction tiles, legos, or evenly sliced foods (such as pie) are all helpful concrete representations of what a fraction is and how it works.
And it is critical for kids to truly understand what numerators and denominators represent before attempting to manipulate fractions by adding them.
When moving from concrete and pictorial to abstract in this step, I often encourage kids to think of the denominator as “apples” to help them remember not to add the denominators! Instead of ⅜ + 2/8 they might say, “3 apples plus 2 apples”. This can help them to remember that denominators are the name of the size of the object, not a number to be manipulated during addition. Side warning: never teach multiplication and division of fractions at the same time as addition and subtraction. The different rules can be very confusing to keep straight!
Once adding small fractions of the same denominator are solid, you’ll add in adding fractions more than 1, and learning how to turn an “improper fraction” (also called “a fraction greater than 1”) into a “mixed number”.
Then kids will add different denominators, first less than 1, and then more than 1, and mixed numbers together.
Again, having something physical to represent those numbers is important in demonstrating why ⅔ + ¾ does NOT equal 5/7, as they are likely to want to try. They need to see and feel why different denominators require first finding a common denominator (or “cutting all the pieces to be the same size”).
With fractions, use concrete and pictorial representations for longer than you think necessary as anything with fractions tend to be confusing to kids, even after they seem to have mastered it. Also, be sure you are practicing it frequently after it is mastered so that it stays fresh for them.
Algebraic Addition
Having letters and symbols represent a missing number can happen early on, as soon as a child seems to have first mastered adding using an algorithm. This makes them truly understand all of the pieces of the algorithm and what each piece represents. It may not be how you were taught, but it can be beneficial for your own kids!
Takeaway
Addition requires skills to be mastered before beginning and new skills before increasing the difficulty. Use concrete, pictorial, and then abstract when teaching addition (and all math skills).

Monday Mar 21, 2022
Motivational Autonomy
Monday Mar 21, 2022
Monday Mar 21, 2022
Your spouse/partner comes to you and says, “Hey, I need you to organize the shelves in the garage this weekend.”
-OR-
“Hey, I’d love to get the garage organized this weekend! Would you be willing to handle the shelves? Or would you rather tackle the pile of tools?”
Which would most get you on board with their project?
I am certainly MUCH more motivated when I’m not being told what to do, but being given choice.
As promised, I’m back with more ideas on what TO DO to motivate your learner!
Back in January, I had a fabulous discussion with Vibha Arora in which she suggested giving a child autonomy if they are shutting down and refusing to work.
I agreed with Vibha on so many things, and this was no exception!
Autonomy is very motivating!
When a child is told that they “have to” do something, a child’s autonomy is being removed and they will fight to get it back. “You have to ____” is instantly going to make a child less willing and interested in doing that thing.
Autonomy’s definition is: “the capacity to make an informed, uncoerced decision”. When we are using rewards and punishments, we are using coercion.
How do we boost autonomy and motivation?
Give Choices!
Give developmentally-appropriate choices. Two choices for some kids, and many more for others.
Give meaningful choices. Asking “do you want to use the crayon or colored pencil?” is less meaningful than “do you want to practice counting or do you want to practice your letters?” Both kinds of choices can boost autonomy, but more meaningful choices will go further in this aim.
When kids feel powerless, they fight back. Which then causes us to up-level our authoritarian instincts (or is it just me?). We start to threaten or punish and they feel more powerless and things just spiral…
But the opposite is also true: the more often we give choices, the more empowered they feel.
When giving choices, you can give information about what is important to you. “It is important that you work on learning your letter sounds.” Then asking them how they’d like to do it, but offering choices that they can select from.
Younger kids will have had less exposure to all the different options in how to learn something, so giving them a variety to choose from is helpful in their selecting a choice. Older kids won’t necessarily need specific choice, but just the freedom to come up with ideas on how to achieve the goal.
Give Responsibility
When you are giving meaningful choices, you are giving kids control over something and allowing them to recognize that their choices are important.
Don’t force the responsibility, but allow for it. Allow them to engage meaningfully in the family and participate in what needs to happen.
Rather than choosing a curriculum for your child, allow them to choose for themselves. This might be between two choices you’ve looked at, or it might be more open-ended and allowing them to do all the research behind it (for older kids). (“Would you like to use A or B for your reading curriculum? Look at these features…” or “We need a reading curriculum for next school year, do you want to take the lead on researching and choosing one?”)
We might also allow our child to choose how or where they go to school. Maybe they can choose between two nearby schools, or maybe they can choose home school or public school. Maybe you homeschool, but are open to them selecting the style of homeschooling.
You can allow them to take responsibility over their work space. And with that and other responsibilities, you can give parameters around what is acceptable to you, and establish what is important to them. “You need a clear space where you can focus on your studies.” and “I need this desk kept cleared off when you’re not using it because having clutter in the living room doesn’t work for me.”
Give responsibility as a gift. Responsibility comes with benefits and consequences. It can allow for more freedom, but also more opportunity for messing up and needing to make repairs. Give responsibility and trust in your child.
Follow Their Lead
Whatever a child is already interested in, they’re already intrinsically motivated toward. Encourage and support these interests as well as doing whatever you can to encourage them in developing new interests. (These are the WORST times to utilize rewards!)
Takeaway: Autonomy can be very motivating!
How do YOU foster autonomy?

Monday Mar 14, 2022
Finger-Counting Freddy
Monday Mar 14, 2022
Monday Mar 14, 2022
When asked to add two numbers, what is your child’s strategy?
Kids like “Freddy” add by always starting at 1, instead of “counting on” from one of the two numbers.
For kid’s like Freddy, there is a lack of number sense that is slowing them down and can cause bigger problems later, so it’s worth fixing now!
What worked- Asking Questions
“How many fingers are on that hand?”
“What comes after 5?”
For a lot of kids, these questions aren’t enough because they haven’t practiced counting on so they aren’t able to.
What worked- Practice Counting On
Build into your routine regularly starting the count from numbers other than 1 and zero!
As you’re out on a walk or driving in the car, just start counting on from a different number and then stop to let your kiddo take over. “3, 4, 5…” “32, 33, 34….”
At home, start counting on, and then mime handing the mic over to your kid for them to then continue. Then switch and have them start and hand you the mic.
*Keep in mind that the biggest challenge in counting on for most kids is “29…” (and 39, 49, 59, etc). I would recommend practicing this after they’re more comfortable with the easier ones, and then be sure to practice this one A LOT! You’d be shocked how many older kids still struggle with this!
Model
“7 + 2. Okay, 7, 8, 9! 7 + 2 is 9!”
Explicit Instruction
You can explicitly teach a child to use the counting-on strategy. This should be a quick 5 minute lesson in which you show your child. “I’m going to show you a way to add a little faster! Watch me.”
Specific Practice
Once your child has learned this strategy, let them know that they are going to practice it and then have them do a few problems on a worksheet to practice. You can also play games instead. I like using cards or dice to mix things up a bit. I might roll two dice and have my child write down the numbers and then I’ll cover the die that has the higher value, encouraging them to count on from that number. With cards, I’ll do essentially the same. (I also might practice without writing anything down)

Monday Mar 07, 2022
Work Completion is NOT the Goal!
Monday Mar 07, 2022
Monday Mar 07, 2022
“When you finish that math worksheet, you have the reading comprehension one from yesterday to finish.”
Does that sound reasonable?
To most of us, it does. We have likely heard and maybe said something very similar ourselves.
In a society focused on how “productive” a person is, we expect kids to finish worksheets like it is their job.
We even talk about school being a child’s job, and some parents pay kids for how well they do at their job! (Please see the episode “Motivation Killers” on why I don’t support this practice)
But learning is way more important than a job. We can choose to quit a job, and we can choose to quit doing a “learning activity”, but the actual learning is happening. Kids are constantly learning, especially when they are having fun and are interested in what they’re doing.
The more focused we are on a particular task being completed, the more likely it is that our child will find the task unpleasant and learn little from it.
Instead, ask yourself, “what is my goal in giving my child this task?”
Now, a worksheet to practice a particular math strategy is totally valid. I recommend starting with hands-on learning first, and then worksheets can provide good practice and review.
However, the goal of the worksheet is to allow for that practice, not to finish a worksheet. And maybe completing two problems is sufficient practice. Maybe two full pages is more appropriate.
And there are plenty of times that a worksheet is too easy and not helpful practice, or too difficult and getting the child to complete it leads to a child who has a finished worksheet that they have no idea how to do or what they were supposed to have learned from it.
I see this last one all the time. The other day I was given an incomplete comprehension page that one of my students was supposed to finish with me because they didn’t do it in class. I immediately could see that the worksheet was at a much higher reading level than this child’s ability, and was not on a topic the child was interested in.
I certainly could have gotten that worksheet finished with the child, but I have limited time with these kids and I want the time that I do have with them to be used wisely. So, instead of doing the worksheet, we worked on what I had planned already- some reading and math activities that were at her level.
The next time you are about to ask your child to complete something, question yourself: what is the purpose of this activity? At what point will it have fulfilled its function? Is it an appropriate level for my child? And then make an appropriate plan with that information.

Monday Feb 28, 2022
Phonics and Dyslexia
Monday Feb 28, 2022
Monday Feb 28, 2022
Phonics is all about the relationship between sounds and letters and using that letter-sound knowledge to read and spell words!
With a strong phonics knowledge, your child will be able to read and spell unfamiliar words.
But phonics can also be confusing! In English, there are 44 sounds, 26 letters, and 75 basic phonograms (single or multi-letter representations of sounds).
And kids with dyslexia REALLY struggle with phonics!
If you show your child a nonsense word (like fisp), can they read it? If you ask them to spell ‘plit’, how do they do?
If your child is struggling with phonics development, there are things we can do to help them!
First of all, there are Orton-Gillingham based programs that provide a strong phonemic awareness and phonics foundation.
But you can also follow the same basic process at home, by following a few steps:
Step 1: Start by developing phonemic awareness! Check out the episode on phonemic awareness for specific steps on how to do this part yourself!
Step 2: Be sure your child knows the letter and sound correspondences. For most kids, this is just about plenty of exposure and practice. It could be flashcards, but multi-sensory approaches typically work best.
- Write letters in sand, build them with playdough, make whole body dance moves about letters and sounds!
- Some kids with dyslexia need the mouth formation for each letter sound really demonstrated explicitly for them.
- Keep in mind that there are 75 basic phonograms and many of those 26 letters have multiple sounds
Step 3: Have your child put their letter-sound knowledge to use! Reading is typically easier than spelling for most kids, so reading will develop faster. Take each at their own pace!
Get progressively more complex (C = consonant sound; V = Vowel sound):
- CVC
- VCC
- CCV
- CVCC
- CCVC
- CCVCC
Step 4: Next come the multisyllabic words!
- Take individual words that they can read and make compound words.
- Then use prefixes and suffixes.
Many multi-syllabic words are VERY phonetic, making them easy to read and spell once a child knows how to chunk them and use phonics skills!
Takeaway: Phonics is important, but can be difficult for those with dyslexia. A systematic intervention is necessary (but it is also something that you can provide completely for free!)
If you suspect your child may have dyslexia, take the quiz “Is My Child Dyslexic?” here to find out how likely it is! (This is not a diagnostic tool, but a simple pre-screener that you can use to help guide you!)

Monday Feb 21, 2022
Motivation and Relationships
Monday Feb 21, 2022
Monday Feb 21, 2022
Stop with the sticker charts, cookies, threats, and bribes! Put down the gold star! Don’t say, “if you ….” ever again!
There’s a better way!
To be completely transparent, this better way is not likely to be faster… at first.
But as I talked about in the episode “Motivation Killers”, all of those bribes don’t work very well in the long term. You have to keep upping your game, promising more and more.
However, there is something that doesn’t require any upping of the ante, or any tricks. And it works to motivate your kiddo in the long-term.
Actually, there are SEVERAL somethings that work like that!
Today though, we are talking about RELATIONSHIPS!
The relationship between a parent and child can be very powerful in motivating a child to do something that we are asking them to do. Or in motivating them to learn something specific.
When our children feel seen, loved, and respected, they are much more likely to be helpful. And when they feel respected by us, it opens them up to be interested in what we are doing.
A strong relationship with your child can lead them to be interested in what we are interested in, or in feeling free to explore something that they are interested in!
When children feel that they are in conflict with us and that we are threatening their autonomy, they aren’t very likely to be cooperative (especially as they get older and need to express their autonomy!). But when we have a mindset based around respect and being on their side in all challenges, they see us as someone who they can come to with difficulties, and maybe even someone with interesting ideas!
What are you doing to foster the relationship you have with your child?

Monday Feb 14, 2022
Rhyme-less Rita
Monday Feb 14, 2022
Monday Feb 14, 2022
I want to tell you about Rita.
Rita was a student I worked with MANY years ago (more than I can believe!).
I was a new teacher and knew almost nothing about dyslexia. I had heard of it, but got no training on it in my credentialing classes to become a special education teacher (education specialist). Can you believe that?!
Poor Rita. She couldn’t rhyme, blend, or segment in kindergarten. And I didn’t really know what to do about it except to practice MORE rhyming, blending, and segmenting. For a few years, we kept at it, while also working on sight words and other reading skills.
Rita was able to stay at grade-level in her reading but couldn’t rhyme, blend, or segment much at all. (Despite all of the practice we had been doing!)
I’m a researcher by nature. I love to read and research any topic I’m interested in, and especially ones around problems I’m trying to solve for myself, my family, or my students!
So I read and read and realized I needed to do something more fundamental than the rhyming, blending, and segmenting that I had been doing!
Eventually, we found success and Rita was able to segment and blend and read unknown words, although rhyming was never her strong suit! She became a strong reader who could figure out some rhymes.
The first things that helped a little was just an overall increase in Rita’s exposure to rhyming. We played rhyming games, practiced rhyming, books, poems, songs, videos. This was the stuff I did early on that seemed to help some, but not nearly enough.
Eventually, I used a systematic phonemic awareness instruction. It included a lot of specific segmenting and blending practice. For more on how that works, check out the episode/blog on Phonemic Awareness and Dyslexia.
Takeaway:
Rhyming isn’t easy and isn’t automatic for some kids. They need systematic interventions.
If you want to learn how to teach your own child with dyslexia, email me at Kimberlynn@DecodingLearningDifferences.com

Monday Feb 07, 2022
Is My Child Dyslexic? An Interview with YOU!
Monday Feb 07, 2022
Monday Feb 07, 2022
In the quiz “Is My Child Dyslexic” there are ten questions. Knowing the purpose of each of these questions can help you to best determine what your best next steps are.
And if you want to work with me directly, check out Word Warriors!

Monday Jan 31, 2022
Phonemic Awareness and Dyslexia
Monday Jan 31, 2022
Monday Jan 31, 2022
Kids with dyslexia struggle with Phonemic Awareness. But what does that mean?
Phonemic Awareness Skills
Kids who are strong in Phonemic Awareness are kids that are able to segment, blend, delete, and rhyme!
Segmenting means taking a word and breaking into individual sounds. Example: you tell your kid, “Cat” and they are able to tell you: “/k/ /a/ /t/”. This is all by sound! No looking at words, using letter tiles, or writing anything down!
Blending means taking individual sounds and turning them into a smooth word. Now you’re reversing the task for your kid. You say something like “/k/ /a/ /t/” and they can say, “cat!” Again, this is all by sound, not reading the letters for help.
Deleting means taking one sound out of a word. You might ask your child, “Say ‘cat’ without saying /k/” and they have to be able to say: “at”. (Again- no letters! No pictures, all just by sound.)
And rhyming, of course, is deleting the initial sound(s) and replacing it with (a) new initial sound(s). “What rhymes with cat?” “bat, fat, hat, rat, mat, sat, that, flat…”
Bonus- pig latin! This is a manipulation of a word, removing the initial consonant sound(s) (if there are any), moving that sound to the end of the word, and adding “-ay” to the end of the word. “Cat” becomes “atkay”. “I can speak pig latin” becomes “Iay ankay eakspay igpay atinlay.”
Why it matters
Phonemic Awareness leads to the ability to read and spell unknown words. This allows individuals to independently read increasingly complex texts and write about what they are spelling.
Some kids with dyslexia, or with insufficient phonemic awareness and phonics instruction, become great sight readers. They memorize how to say a word very well and are able to progress with grade-level reading ability. However, as words become increasingly complex, and as they are presented with less and less auditory input for what they are reading (fewer read alouds!), they are going to start to really struggle to know what they are reading.
Phonemic Awareness is hindered by dyslexia
Phonological Processing is necessary for Phonemic awareness and kids with dyslexia have a phonological processing deficit. Therefore, phonemic awareness is unlikely to develop easily in a child with dyslexia.
What do we do about it?
What can we do to support phonemic awareness development in those with dyslexia?
Developing phonemic awareness in a child with dyslexia is a worthwhile endeavor, allowing them to be more successful in their reading and spelling! However, it isn’t easy. It requires specific, structured, intentional instruction over many months, or even years.
One of the most strongly recommended types of programs for those with dyslexia is Orton-Gillingham based strategies. These can get pricey. They are well-developed and worth the cost for those who can afford it and want a specialized tutor or want a ready-made program.
But you can also implement all of these strategies for free yourself!
Step 1: Start by dragging out a word until your child can hear each sound. Example: saying “Caaaaat!” while also moving your hand across their visual field (in front of them) to help them notice when one sound is changing into another.
Step 2: Next you want your child to be able to delete one of the sounds after they’ve said all of the sounds.
Step 3: Trade a sound: “Say ‘fip’. Say all of the sounds in ‘fip’. Say /d/ instead of /f/ Now what is the word? (dip)”
Step 4: Notice when and how a nonsense word changes
Step 5: Rhyming the words.
When they’ve mastered one level, repeat the above, getting progressively more complex (slowly!) General progression (C= consonant sound; V= vowel):
CVC
VCC
CCV
CVCC
CCVC
CCVCC
If step 1 above does not work for your kid, try Step 0!
Step 0: break compound words into the component words. (pancake is made up of pan and cake!)
For some kids: even those start points are too difficult. They need to start by feeling the sound of a letter in their mouths. You want them to feel what each sound feels like in their mouth. You want them to notice whether or not the voice box is on, what is happening with the tongue, teeth, and the lips.
Takeaway:
Phonemic Awareness is important, but is difficult for those with dyslexia. A systematic intervention is necessary to truly meet the needs of those with dyslexia.